Friday, October 24, 2008
I recently had to deal with my little brother and his baby momma separating. My nephew is 2 years old. This is ridiculous as we all warned them of these consequences. I under stand feeling like you have fallen in love. I have been there done that. I became a part of the statistic a long time ago. I was a 21 year old single mother and have been ever since. My baby dadddy who is long gone now already had 2 kids with his prior baby momma. And after me, had two more. He came from a single parent home also, his mom had 5 different baby daddies. Where does the cycle end?, I ask. I fear for my son and his heart when he grows up. I give him love, all that I have. I dont want him looking for love in all the wrong places. My mom had to work and the situation at home wasnt good. The first easy way out of my house and I was gone. But now a days, it isnt about that. Girls are just plain wanting to become mommies. The kids are the ones who suffer out of all of this. My brother's baby momma just turned 18 and now wants to live the life of an 18 year old. But now to me I think its too late. She has decided to leave my brother because she doent know if she still wants to be with him. This is the problem that they face when they start making families at such a young age. Think twice about your actions and then you wont regret not being able to go hand with the girls on Saturday night. Life didnt just get complicated, it has been. You made it this way. The only thing that I think about is what example are we showing our kids. We arent showing them any. We are not caring for them becaue if we did we would make better choices. We are such a selfish being. Its all about me, me, and more me. Let's start hugging our kids. Take them to fun activities. Be involved in their lives. They need us. I needed my mom but she was too busy making a living for us. To this day my mom works like a dog to make a living. She has taught me to stop and make sure I pay my son attention. Sometimes I get so wrapped up in my life that I forget all the hard work I am doing is for him. Everyday I tell him I love him. Everyday I come home to him and I hug him and kiss him. After a long hard day of work, he is the reason I dont and wont give up.
Posted by independent mami at 1:45 PM